“Honey, can you come here please?,” I yelled up to my husband after I stepped out of my first shower in our new master bathroom.
“What is it?,” Andrew asked when he walked into the bathroom.
“Stand right here in the shower with me and tell me what’s wrong with this picture.”
He paused, looking around.
“Uh, nothing that I can see. The water looks pretty today.”
Andrew had me lower my makeshift window curtains (who puts a flipping exterior picture window in the master shower anyway?!) the previous day because he wanted to be able to look out at the water while he takes a shower. I agreed so long as the shower curtain was high enough to cover me!
As I was taking what I planned to be my first leisurely shower on Saturday, however, I started looking around myself and noticed some pretty potted plants on the upper level of the neighboring porch.
Wait a flipping minute!
If I can see the neighbor’s porch and into their living room through that porch, then surely that means that they could see ME taking a shower, right?!
I crouched down low to dip back below the sightline for the duration of what then became the quickest shower in human history.
When I pointed out the problem with the current shower curtain situation, Andrew was unfazed.
“Why do you care if anyone sees you naked anyway?,” he nonchalantly stated as he turned on his heel and walked back out of the bathroom.
Huh? Did he really not see the problem?
I love my husband but sometimes we do not look at issues the same way. Maybe it’s a man/woman thing.
I have clients that tell me that they came to our office because they really wanted to work with a female attorney who would really listen to their concerns and “get” them.
I’ve even had women clients before tell me that when they and their husband met with a male attorney prior to seeing me, that the attorney spoke the entire time to her husband and never addressed her.
I am flabbergasted that this even happens but I have heard similar stories often enough that apparently it still happens.
No doubt about it. As a woman, I do look at situations differently than my husband and I presume, many other men.
I’m not saying this makes my perspective any better or worse than a man’s but it is different. (Ok, ladies, you can agree with me that I’m right on the shower issue, right?)
Oftentimes you do want a different perspective than your own when you are planning your estate affairs.
And you will certainly get plenty of perspective when you attend a Family Succession Strategy Session with either myself or my colleague, Amanda Lynch Elliott.
Regardless of my husband’s dismissal of my shower concerns, that shower curtain was immediately raised above my head, water view be damned.
I’d like to maintain a bit of privacy, and modesty, in my own bathroom, thank you very much, honey!
Kristen “Who Does Care If People See Her Naked” Marks
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