Getting My Mindfulness Groove On

Kristen Marks

by Kristen Marks

Kristen Marks, ultrarunner, attorney, author, speaker, proud wife and mom, is the founder of My Pink Lawyer®. She has been helping Florida women and families protect their assets from unnecessary government interference, exorbitant legal fees, lengthy time delays, and family fights for over twenty years.

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So I’m turning into one of those annoying people.

 

You know. The ones who remain calm and unflappable even in the midst of activity, set backs, and daily life annoyances.

 

Well, I should clarify that I am on the path towards calmness and unflappability.

 

Let me back up a bit.

 

With both of my kids headed off to college in another week, you would think that this would be the perfect time to make big plans for myself.

 

Trail race goals.

 

Business goals.

 

Fitness goals.

 

Travel plans.

 

But nope. The thought of “goal setting” in this phase of my life exhausts me.

 

Maybe it’s because in reflecting back over the past twenty years raising our kids, I get a little exhausted thinking about it.

 

The car pools.

 

The regimented school schedules.

 

Sports and other kids activities.

 

Grades.

 

Summer camps.

 

Not to mention worrying about our kids’ happiness, their adjustment, their health and overall well-being.

 

Not that my worrying will stop when they head to college but you know the old saying, “Out of sight, out of mind.”

 

Sure, I will think about whether they are adjusting to college life, having fun, meeting new friends, keeping up with their school work, staying safe… But I won’t be worried about what time they came home last night, because they aren’t here in my house.

 

And don’t get me wrong. Raising my kids has been the most rewarding accomplishment of my life. I loved every minute of it (well, most minutes!) but now I have an opportunity to take a big breath and exhale.

 

So now that I’m finally in place where I can actually stop worrying a bit, I thought, why not take it a step further and actually slow down and relax in my life.

 

So, I started something new a couple weeks ago.

 

I started meditating each morning and have started practicing being mindful throughout my day. 

 

Granted, I’m not very good yet at taming my “monkey mind” when I meditate and have only worked myself up to ten minutes in the morning, but it’s a start.

 

I can already feel myself more relaxed during the day. 

 

More “present” in each moment.

 

More calm.

 

More focused.

 

More joyful.

 

More appreciative of my life and the relationships in it and my past accomplishments (including the launching of my kids out of high school and into college without killing them first!).

 

I want to take this moment (however long it lasts) to slow down and unwind from the constant “busyness” I tend to create for myself.

 

I want to enjoy my life just as it currently is.

 

I want to just BE.

 

And no, taking a mental step back doesn’t mean that I will stop working out, that I will stop meeting with clients, that I will stop hanging out with my friends and family. I enjoy all of those things in my life.

 

But, for the moment, I will stop being hard on myself, alwayschasing the next big challenge (the next race, the next business goal, the next big trip) and simply enjoy the life I’ve already created for myself.

 

What about you? Are you happy with the life you are living? If not, maybe taking a mental break to create the space and opportunity to reflect on what you love about your life and what you would like to change would benefit you too. 

 

One thing my clients repeatedly tell me is that planning their estate brings them clarity and peace of mind knowing that their family is secure. 

 

My colleague, AmandaElliott,and I make the estate planning process simple by guiding you through clear and easy step-by-step process, answering all of your questions, providing practical advice, and respectful, personal service and support for the long haul.

 

We welcome the opportunity to serve you and your family with your Florida Estate & Legacy Planning. 

 

To schedule your no-obligation consultationwith one of us, you may either phone our office (850-439-1191) or schedule your consultation online at this link

 

Namaste (which literally means “I bow to you” in Sanskrit).

 

Kristen “Get Her Mindfulness Groove On” Marks