Most 23-year-olds don't typically dwell on the concept of death. The future stretches out, seemingly vast and endless, convincing us we have decades down the road to tackle “grown-up” decisions.
While I confess to navigating most days by the seat of my pants, I've come to understand that thoughtful planning for future uncertainties yields profound rewards.
But, when my husband, an active-duty Naval Airman, recently presented me with a rather daunting five-page questionnaire, I wasn't so sure I could plan for its content.
This packet posed a series of deeply personal questions, meticulously crafted around the tragic, unforeseen possibility of his premature death while in service. It prompted me to confront scenarios I would never independently consider: how I would wish to be informed, who should be present, and how our family would be notified.
A bit mortified by the sudden turn my evening had taken, in true military fashion, I was then informed the packet needed to be completed by the next morning.
A piece of wisdom from my father often echoes in my mind: Uncomfortable conversations, the ones we dread most, lead to invaluable clarity and closure. So, I took a deep breath, rolled up my sleeves, and committed to the task at hand.
Undeniably, it was difficult to envision a world where such a document would ever be necessary, but I understood the fundamental purpose behind it. This wasn't about inviting negative thoughts or foretelling a tragic loss. Instead, it was about ensuring that, should the unthinkable occur, I could find solace in knowing that every critical decision had already been made. Amid grief, when I would not be of sound mind or rational thought, I would have peace. I’d know his wishes and mine for his final arrangements, are precisely as we had chosen, not determined by someone else in a moment of crisis.
I realize that confronting mortality is inherently challenging. It's an uncomfortable conversation, often avoided as if speaking of it might somehow manifest its arrival. But I am privileged to work in an environment where death is approached differently. Where our focus is shifted to empowered planning, while you are alive and well.
By planning ahead, should tragedy strike, your family is protected. They are spared the burden of making difficult choices while navigating overwhelming grief. Your wishes won't be subject to a spur-of-the-moment decision by someone who isn't you. Instead, stress and anxiety will be lessened by the clarity and closure your foresight provides.
When we discuss Estate Planning, our conversation isn't about dwelling on death. It's about celebrating the freedom of choice, the empowerment to plan now, and the profound comfort in knowing that, even if the unexpected happens, you and your loved ones are thoroughly covered and your intentions honored.
As you work with our team, know that we've personally navigated those challenging discussions about end-of-life planning. We're here to guide you through them, because we believe that achieving peace of mind, whether you're 23 or 83, is truly rewarding.
Aubrey Myers: The Optimist for Life, and Beyond.
